That means they are big enough to walk on their own and run around, but they are still little enough to run off or make some bad choices. Having them in matching outfits makes it easier to visually keep track of both of them.
This is especially true when we drop Ben off at preschool. There are a lot of little ones running around, and it is a safe place for the girls to get to play a bit. I can easily pick them out of the crowd of little people by looking for the two matching outfits. She is wearing what her sister has on. Seriously, even though I dress my kids every morning in a stressful moment I might not remember what they are wearing. If we are out somewhere and one girl gets lost it will be easy for me to share what she is wearing with helpers.
I hope I never have to use this, but it does make me feel a little better. Wait, dressing twins alike means I know them as individuals more?
When my girls were newborns I rarely dressed them alike. I wanted to make sure I knew who was who. Dressing twins differently is super helpful during this time. Now that my girls are toddlers they do have distinct personalities. Wearing the same clothes makes me really look at my twins. Even though my twins are identical, there are subtle differences between them.
Sammy has a twinkle in her eye when she thinks something is funny, but not always a huge grin. I think that is not true. You can completely know your twins as two unique people and still dress them alike. There are a lot of benefits to dressing twins the same. And I think age is a big factor. Dressing two-year-olds the same is very different from forcing year-olds to dress alike.
I think the biggest factor, the most important factor, is how your twins feel about dressing the same. My twins also recognize themselves as individuals. If I ever fear they are having trouble with their own sense of individuality, no more dressing alike. My twins like dressing alike. It is easier for me when my twins dress the same.
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The main reasons given were for ease of shopping, speed when dressing and to avoid tantrums because their twins wanted to wear the same. Even since before our twins were born, I was determined to raise them as individuals, hence the blog name. Instead it may strengthen their sense of self and developing personalities.
To nurture this, it may mean we as parents have to work a little harder or spend an extra few minutes choosing separate outfits but for me that seems worthwhile.
Twins are definitely a conversation starter. Without having the option to match, there is no argument. Most days I still choose outfits. I know that Jessica dislikes long sleeve tops and Emily would rather wear legging under a dress than tights so I pick accordingly. On the days they pick their own outfits, their choices are even more distinct.
There is only one wardrobe which is something that I may change in the future but they often go back to their favourite pieces time and time again. When I shop, I often buy items for a specific twin and tell them which piece is for who straight away.
Just like for the parent, choosing matching outfits is the the easy option for the child too. Even the smallest difference such as socks can become a big deal. The older they get, the more intertwined their perception of what being a twin is with their outfits. Yet you are certainly showcasing them as one unit. Every child wants to be seen as special, especially by their parents. In the mind of the general public, the image of twinship is based on physical similarity.
Many people expect to see twins that bear a strong resemblance to each other, including their clothing selections. However, this can be a sensitive issue for parents of multiples.
Should they dress their twins in similar or coordinating outfits? Or does it have a detrimental effect on their children's' development as individuals? Is dressing twins alike a "do" or a "don't"? Certainly, no parent should force their multiples to dress alike if they don't want to, especially when the children are old enough to express their dislike about it. But babies and toddlers are another story, and it is the parents of those young twins and triplets who will undoubtedly grapple with this issue at some point.
It's one of the dilemmas faced by parents of twins. For one thing, it's just plain easier to dress young children alike; exhausted parents of twinfants don't have the mental capacity to choose two outfits — much less two outfits in the right size that are gender, temperature, activity, and style-appropriate for the day's events!
Moreover, it's cute. It's fun. It celebrates their special relationship as twins. And it sure does make for nice pictures! I haven't encountered specific research that indicates that dressing alike has produced any negative effect on twins.
However many psychologists do recommend against it for parents that wish to emphasize individuality. Researchers do acknowledge that the early years are an incredibly crucial time in the development of a child's cognitive skills. Informal research that I've conducted — basically asking grown sets of twins how they felt about the issue — indicates that it's not really that big of a deal unless the twins were forced to dress alike once they were older.
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