Not to mention, if you're both cool with spending time apart — and do so without it feeling like a big deal — it shows you have a good level of trust and respect for each other. All good things. Making decisions, doing chores, paying bills. It all carries a mental load, Griffin says, which is why you're likely with the right person if they understand that — and do their part.
You don't want it to feel like you're the only one doing the heavy lifting, she says, since that can lead to resentment. So even if you're definitely going through a tough time, consider your reaction to it all.
If there's a willingness to acknowledge problems and a willingness to find solutions to those problems, it's a sign you still see the relationship as "worth it. If you're still unsure, however, "talk to your partner about your concerns and fears," Daniels says. They need to know how you feel so they can join you in making positive changes. There might not be a definitive answer when it comes to whether or not your partner is right for you. But most importantly of all, check in with yourself.
Your body tells you a lot about what's going on — listen to it. Amber Artis , relationship expert. Saudia L. Samantha Daniels , dating expert. Rosalind Sedacca, CLC , dating and relationship coach. Salina Schmidgall, M. Cathy Sullivan-Windt, Ph. Danielle Forshee , clinical psychologist and licensed clinical social worker. By Kristine Fellizar and Carolyn Steber.
Updated: March 1, Originally Published: June 25, We want to find a love worth fighting for, one we deserve, but that doesn't mean the love will be perfect. This wall starts being built one teensy-tiny brick at a time, yet all of these bricks multiply, and unfortunately, some walls can get so big and solid that they do not come down. At the end of the day, you're still in a relationship with a human being who is susceptible to error. And sorry, but you're just a human too: filled with neurosis and internal crises.
It should be OK to talk about your misgivings, fears, and anxieties -- even at the risk of sounding unsure about your relationship. You know the drill: If you can't talk through your worries, you can't fix them. We all have doubts. You never get over the nerves entirely. Knowing whether you've got nerves or actual problems is a question of the gut. As usual, communication is key.
Gigi Engle is Thrillist's Sex and Dating staff writer and she freaks out about everything constantly, so don't worry about it. Make Fun. She wanted us to start dating. I was completely caught off guard.
I had no idea she felt this way. Sensing my conflict, she asked that I think about it and said we would talk when I saw her that summer. For the remainder of that semester, I agonized over what I should do. One night, when I was alone in my dorm room, I took a deep breath and asked myself some very important questions that I needed to answer but had been avoiding. Did I share the same feelings she had for me? Did I want us to begin dating? By being still and questioning myself, I gained access to my inner voice, which I had been drowning out in my panic.
Pursuing a relationship primarily out of fear of losing her would have been unfair to both of us, and it would have caused us to not live in truth. That summer was difficult. When I told her how I truly felt, she was understandably hurt.
However, our friendship survived because we both realized we cared enough to be brutally honest with each other, and that is rare.
I f you are having doubts about a relationship, please let me assure you the answers you seek are within you. You just may be allowing fear to muffle your inner voice. Please keep in mind there are no wrong or right answers, just insightful ones:.
Do you feel you have made personal sacrifices for your relationship, and have they been reciprocated? Do either of you dredge up resentments in arguments, and why have you struggled to let them go? What is your happiest memory of your time together? You can also try one-on-one therapy, or a finding a support group like Al-Anon or Codependents Anonymous.
Doubt is a perfectly normal part of any relationship. It becomes problematic, though, when we avoid resolving it. You may need to examine your defensiveness if you find yourself inclined to quit a relationship simply because a partner respectfully offers a perspective that clashes with your own. Relationships are tricky business, so we checked in with some love doctors to find out how to make love last.
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